Goodwill [and friendly admonishment] is the life of friendship [and affection]

الْعِتَابُ حَيَاةُ الْمَوَدَّةِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The friend has been named ?ad?q because he is truthful to you about your nature and faults, so have confidence in one who does this for he is your [true] friend

إِنَّمَا سُمِّيَ الصَّدِيقُ صَدِيقاً لِأَنَّهُ يَصْدُقُكَ فِي نَفْسِكَ وَمَعَايِبِكَ فَمَنْ فَعَلَ ذَلِكَ فَاسْتَنِمْ إِلَيْهِ فَإِنَّهُ الصَّدِيقُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Your friend is one who forbids you [from evil] and your enemy is one who entices you [to Perform evil]

صَدِيقُكَ مَنْ نَهَاكَ وَعَدُوُّكَ مَنْ أَغْرَاكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

You should build a bond of brotherhood with the one who cautions and forbids you [from doing evil] for verily he is aiding and guiding you

عَلَيْكَ بِمُؤَاخَاةِ مَنْ حَذَّرَكَ وَنَهَاكَ فَإِنَّهُ يُنْجِدُكَ وَيُرْشِدُكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Let the most preferred people in your eyes be the ones who guide you to your faults and help you to reform yourself

لِيَكُنْ آثَرُ النَّاسِ عِنْدَكَ [إِلَيْكَ‏] مَنْ أَهْدَى إِلَيْكَ عَيْبَكَ [مَرْشَدَكَ‏] وَأَعَانَكَ عَلَى نَفْسِكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Let the most beloved of all people to you be one who guides you to the right and discloses your faults to you

لِيَكُنْ أَحَبُّ [آثَرُ] النَّاسِ إِلَيْكَ مَنْ هَدَاكَ إِلَى مَرَاشِدِكَ [أَهْدَى إِلَيْكَ مَرْشَدَكَ‏] وَكَشَفَ لَكَ عَنْ مَعَايِبِكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who loves you forbids you [from evil]

مَنْ أَحَبَّكَ نَهَاكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who shows you your fault has indeed counselled you

مَنْ بَصَّرَكَ عَيْبَكَ فَقَدْ نَصَحَكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who informs you of your faults is indeed your friend

مَنْ أَبَانَ لَكَ عَيْبَكَ فَهُوَ وَدُودُكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who discloses your faults to you guards you in your absence

مَنْ كَاشَفَكَ فِي عَيْبِكَ حَفِظَكَ فِي غَيْبِكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who keeps good ties [and company] with his brothers makes their bond [with him] last longer

مَنْ بَصَّرَكَ عَيْبَكَ وَحَفِظَكَ فِي غَيْبِكَ فَهُوَ الصَّدِيقُ فَاحْفَظْهُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who frightens you [from committing sins] in order to protect you [from punishment] is better than one who gives you a [false] sense of security on order that you may become frightened

مَنْ أَخَافَكَ لِكَيْ يُؤْمِنَكَ خَيْرٌ لَكَ مِمَّنْ يُؤْمِنُكَ لِكَيْ يُخِيفَكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The [true] friend is he who forbids [one from] injustice and wrongdoing while helping [one] to perform good deeds and be righteous

الصَّدِيقُ مَنْ كَانَ نَاهِياً عَنِ الظُّلْمِ وَالْعُدْوَانِ مُعِيناً عَلَى الْبِرِّ وَالْإِحْسَانِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Love for the sake of Allah the one who struggles against you for the betterment of [your] religion and covers you with the mantle of certitude

أَحْبِبْ فِي اللَّهِ مَنْ يُجَاهِدُكَ عَلَى صَلَاحِ دِينٍ وَيُكْسِبُكَ حُسْنَ يَقِينٍ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Your brother for the sake of Allah is one who guides you towards rectitude, forbids you from corruption and assists you to improve your Hereafter

أَخُوكَ الصَّدِيقُ مَنْ وَقَاكَ بِنَفْسِهِ وَآثَرَكَ عَلَى مَالِهِ وَوَلَدِهِ وَعِرْسِهِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The most worthy of those whom you love is he whose benefit is for you and whose harm is for other than you

أَحَقُّ مَنْ أَحْبَبْتَهُ مَنْ نَفْعُهُ لَكَ وَضَرُّهُ لِغَيْرِكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

If you find from the needy people one who will carry your provision for you up to the Day of Resurrection and return it to you tomorrow when you need it most, then take the opportunity and give it to him, and increase the provisions that you give him [to carry for you] while you are able to, for it is possible that you may [at one time] seek him but not find him

إِذَا وَجَدْتَ مِنْ أَهْلِ الْفَاقَةِ مَنْ يَحْمِلُ لَكَ زَادَكَ إِلَى يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ فَيُوَفِّيكَ بِهِ غَداً حَيْثُ تَحْتَاجُ إِلَيْهِ فَاغْتَنِمْهُ وَحَمِّلْهُ إِيَّاهُ وَأَكْثِرْ مِنْ تَزْوِيدِهِ وَأَنْتَ قَادِرٌ عَلَيْهِ فَلَعَلَّكَ أَنْ تَطْلُبَهُ فَلَا تَجِدَهُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The embellishment of brotherhood is good companionship and [giving] support despite [financial] difficulty

جَمَالُ الْأُخُوَّةِ إِحْسَانُ الْعِشْرَةِ [الْعُسْرَةِ] وَالْمُوَاسَاةُ مَعَ الْعُسْرَةِ [الْعِشْرَةِ]

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of your brothers is the one who supports you, and better than him is the one who suffices for you, and when he needs you, he excuses you [if you are unable to assist him]

خَيْرُ إِخْوَانِكَ مَنْ وَاسَاكَ وَخَيْرٌ مِنْهُ مَنْ كَفَاكَ وَإِنِ احْتَاجَ إِلَيْكَ أَعْفَاكَ [خَيْرُ إِخْوَانِكَ مَنْ إِذَا احْتَجْتَ إِلَيْهِ كَفَاكَ وَإِذَا احْتَاجَ إِلَيْكَ أَعْفَاكَ‏]

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of your brothers is he who supports you with his benevolence, and better than him is one who makes you needless of all other than him

خَيْرُ إِخْوَانِكَ مَنْ وَاسَاكَ بِخَيْرِهِ وَخَيْرٌ مِنْهُ مَنْ أَغْنَاكَ عَنْ غَيْرِهِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of your brothers is the one who shows you the path of guidance

خَيْرُ إِخْوَانِكَ مَنْ دَلَّكَ عَلَى هُدًى وَأَكْسَبَكَ تُقًى وَصَدَّكَ عَنِ اتِّبَاعِ هَوًى

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Accompany your brothers with kindness and cover their offences with forgiveness

صَاحِبِ الْإِخْوَانَ بِالْإِحْسَانِ وَتَغَمَّدْ ذُنُوبَهُمْ بِالْغُفْرَانِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Let the most beloved person to you and the one who has the greatest status in your eyes be the one who strives hardest in benefiting people

لِيَكُنْ أَحَبُّ النَّاسِ إِلَيْكَ وَأَحْظَاهُمْ لَدَيْكَ أَكْثَرَهُمْ سَعْياً فِي مَنَافِعِ النَّاسِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Whoever is concerned about you, then he is your [true] friend

مَنِ اهْتَمَّ بِكَ فَهُوَ صَدِيقُكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

A believer is never satiated while his brother is hungry

لَا يَشْبَعُ الْمُؤْمِنُ وَأَخُوهُ جَائِعٌ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Being at ease with every person before gauging [them] is from lack of intellect

الطُّمَأْنِينَةُ إِلَى كُلِّ أَحَدٍ قَبْلَ الِاخْتِبَارِ مِنْ قُصُورِ الْعَقْلِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Before choosing a friend, assess him and try hard to find out about him, otherwise you will be forced by necessity to associate with the wicked

قَدِّمِ الِاخْتِبَارَ وَأَجِدِ الِاسْتِظْهَارَ فِي اخْتِيَارِ الْإِخْوَانِ وَإِ لَّا أَلْجَأَكَ الِاضْطِرَارُ إِلَى مُقَارَنَةِ الْأَشْرَارِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Be sure to investigate before taking anyone as your brother, for assessment is the gauge that distinguishes the virtuous from the wicked

قَدِّمِ الِاخْتِبَارَ فِي اتِّخَاذِ الْإِخْوَانِ فَإِنَّ الِاخْتِبَارَ مِعْمَارٌ يُفَرِّقُ بَيْنَ الْأَخْيَارِ وَالْأَشْرَارِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Accompanying a person [for some time] is sufficient to evaluate him

كَفَى بِالصُّحْبَةِ اخْتِبَاراً

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who takes a brother after successfully evaluating him, his companionship will last longer and his bond will be more firmly established

مَنِ اتَّخَذَ أَخاً بَعْدَ حُسْنِ الِاخْتِبَارِ دَامَتْ صُحْبَتُهُ وَتَأَكَّدَتْ مَوَدَّتُهُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who takes a brother after successfully evaluating him, his companionship will last longer and his bond will be more firmly established

مَنْ لَمْ يُقَدِّمْ فِي اتِّخَاذِ الْإِخْوَانِ الِاعْتِبَارَ دَفَعَهُ الِاغْتِرَارُ إِلَى صُحْبَةِ الْفُجَّارِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who takes a brother without evaluation will be forced by necessity to associate with the wicked

مَنِ اتَّخَذَ أَخاً مِنْ غَيْرِ اخْتِبَارٍ أَلْجَأَهُ الِاضْطِرَارُ إِلَى مُرَافَقَةِ الْأَشْرَارِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who feels at ease [with people] before gauging them, regrets

مَنِ اطْمَأَنَّ قَبْلَ الِاخْتِبَارِ نَدِمَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Do not trust in a friend before testing him

لَا تَثِقْ بِالصَّدِيقِ قَبْلَ الْخِبْرَةِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Do not rely on your friend until you have tested him, and be extremely cautious of your enemy

لَا تَأْمَنْ صَدِيقَكَ حَتَّى تَخْتَبِرَهُ وَكُنْ مِنْ عَدُوِّكَ عَلَى أَشَدِّ الْحَذَرِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The person who is most concerned about you is the one who is most helpful to you in improving [and reforming] yourself and is most sincere in advising you with regards to your religion

أَشْفَقُ النَّاسِ عَلَيْكَ أَعْوَنُهُمْ لَكَ عَلَى صَلَاحِ نَفْسِكَ وَأَنْصَحُهُمْ لَكَ فِي دِينِكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Good brotherhood increases reward and beautifies praise

خَيْرُ الْإِخْوَانِ أَقَلُّهُمْ مُصَانَعَةً فِي النَّصِيحَةِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of brothers are the most sincere [of them] and the worst of them are the most Deceitful

خَيْرُ الْإِخْوَانِ أَنْصَحُهُمْ وَشَرُّهُمْ أَغَشُّهُمْ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Let the most beloved person to you be the compassionate adviser

لِيَكُنْ أَحَبُّ النَّاسِ إِلَيْكَ الْمُشْفِقَ النَّاصِحَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who is truthful to you about yourself has indeed guided you aright

مَنْ صَدَّقَكَ فِي نَفْسِكَ فَقَدْ أَرْشَدَكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Whoever gives you sincere advice has indeed helped you

مَنْ نَصَحَكَ فَقَدْ أَنْجَدَكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One whose friendship does not benefit you, his enmity will harm you

مَنْ لَمْ يَنْصَحْكَ فِي صَدَاقَتِهِ فَلَا تَعْذِرْهُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

No one shows compassion like the sincere friend

لَا شَفِيقَ كَالْوَدُودِ النَّاصِحِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The one who assists [you] in obeying [Allah] is the best companion

الْمُعِينُ عَلَى الطَّاعَةِ خَيْرُ الْأَصْحَابِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of your brothers is the one who is stern with you regarding obedience to Allah

خَيْرُ إِخْوَانِكَ مَنْ عَنَّفَكَ فِي طَاعَةِ اللَّهِ سُبْحَانَهُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Brothers are an embellishment in times of ease and a [means of] support in times of tribulation

الْإِخْوَانُ زِينَةٌ فِي الرَّخَاءِ وَعُدَّةٌ فِي الْبَلَاءِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

A friend is a better asset and is more lasting in fondness

الصَّدِيقُ إِنْسَانٌ هُوَ أَنْتَ إِلَّا أَنَّهُ غَيْرُكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The wise person is one who selects his friend carefully, for a man is gauged by his friend

الْأَصْدِقَاءُ نَفْسٌ وَاحِدَةٌ فِي جُسُومٍ مُتَفَرِّقَةٍ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Keep yourself in the company of a virtuous and pious brother and you will remain safe, seek advice from him and you will benefit

اصْحَبْ أَخَا الْتُّقَى وَالدِّينِ تَسْلَمْ وَاسْتَرْشِدْهُ تَغْنَمْ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Choose the new of everything but the oldest one from among your brothers

اخْتَرْ مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْ‏ءٍ جَدِيدَهُ وَمِنَ الْإِخْوَانِ أَقْدَمَهُمْ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of all things is that which is newer, but the best of brothers is the oldest of them

خَيْرُ كُلِّ شَيْ‏ءٍ جَدِيدُهُ وَخَيْرُ الْإِخْوَانِ أَقْدَمُهُمْ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The most deserving of intimacy among the people is the close friend

أَحَقُّ النَّاسِ أَنْ يُونَسَ بِهِ الْوَدُودُ الْمَأْلُوفُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Be careful not to ignore the right of your brother while relying on the bond between you and him, for he whose right you overlook is not your brother

أَفْضَلُ الْعُدَدِ ثِقَاتُ الْإِخْوَانِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The most deserving of those whom you love is the one who does not forsake you

أَوْلَى مَنْ أَحْبَبْتَ مَنْ لَا يَقْلَاكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best assets are reliable brothers

أَفْضَلُ الْعُدَدِ أَخٌ وَفِيٌّ وَشَقِيقٌ زَكِيٌّ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of all people who have preceded you is the one who has preceded you in his good expectation of you

أَفْضَلُ النَّاسِ سَالِفَةً عِنْدَكَ مَنْ أَسْلَفَكَ حُسْنَ التَّأْمِيلِ لَكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of assets are a loyal brother and a righteous sibling

أَصْدَقُ الْإِخْوَانِ مَوَدَّةً أَفْضَلُهُمْ لِإِخْوَانِهِ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ مُوَاسَاةً

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Verily supporting [one’s] companions financially is a sign of noble descent

إِنَّ مُوَاسَاةَ الرِّفَاقِ مِنْ كَرَمِ الْأَعْرَاقِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of your brothers is the one who assists you financially [in your time of need]

خَيْرُ إِخْوَانِكَ مَنْ وَاسَاكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The order of nobleness entails successively doing good to others and assisting one’s brothers [financially]

نِظَامُ الْكَرَمِ مُوَالاةُ الْإِحْسَانِ وَمُوَاسَاةُ الْإِخْوَانِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The structure of religion is [based on] two qualities: your impartiality towards yourself and supporting your brethren

نِظَامُ الدِّينِ خَصْلَتَانِ إِنْصَافُكَ مِنْ نَفْسِكَ وَمُوَاسَاةُ إِخْوَانِكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Nothing preserves brotherhood like financial support [in times of need]

مَا حُفِظَتِ الْأُخُوَّةُ بِمِثْلِ الْمُوَاسَاةِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Indeed only he who does not flatter you loves you, and only he who does not let you hear [his praise] praises you

إِنَّمَا يُحِبُّكَ مَنْ لَا يَتَمَلَّقُكَ وَيُثْنِي عَلَيْكَ مَنْ لَا يُسْمِعُكَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Hold on to every friend who is brought close to you by hard times (and who benefits you in times of distress)

تَمَسَّكْ بِكُلِّ صَدِيقٍ أَفَادَتْكَهُ الشِّدَّةُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of brothers are the least hypocritical in giving good advice

خَيْرُ الْإِخْوَانِ مَنْ لَا يُحْوِجُ إِخْوَانَهُ إِلَى سِوَاهُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of your brothers is the one who supports you, and better than him is the one who suffices for you, and when he needs you, he excuses you [if you are unable to assist him]

خَيْرُ الْإِخْوَانِ مَنْ لَمْ يَكُنْ عَلَى إِخْوَانِهِ مُسْتَقْصِياً

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of brothers is one who does not scrutinize his brothers

خَيْرُ إِخْوَانِكَ مَنْ كَثُرَ إِغْضَابُهُ لَكَ فِي الْحَقِّ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best brother is one whose brotherhood is not based on worldly gain

خَيْرُ الْإِخْوَانِ مَنْ لَمْ تَكُنْ عَلَى الدُّنْيَا أُخُوَّتُهُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best brother is one after whose loss you would not like to remain [alive]

خَيْرُ الْإِخْوَانِ مَنْ إِذَا فَقَدْتَهُ لَمْ تُحِبَّ الْبَقَاءَ بَعْدَهُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of your brothers is one who rushes towards good and pulls you towards it, and enjoins you to righteousness and assists you in it

خَيْرُ إِخْوَانِكَ مَنْ سَارَعَ إِلَى الْخَيْرِ وَجَذَبَكَ إِلَيْهِ وَأَمَرَكَ بِالْبِرِّ وَأَعَانَكَ عَلَيْهِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best of your brothers is the one who exhorts you to speak the truth by his own veracity and compels you to perform the best deeds by his own good actions

خَيْرُ إِخْوَانِكَ مَنْ دَعَاكَ إِلَى صِدْقِ الْمَقَالِ بِصِدْقِ مَقَالِهِ وَنَدَبَكَ إِلَى أَفْضَلِ الْأَعْمَالِ بِحُسْنِ أَعْمَالِهِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The best brother is the most helpful of them in [performing] good deeds, the most active in doing good deeds and the most affable in companionship

خَيْرُ الْإِخْوَانِ أَعْوَنُهُمْ عَلَى الْخَيْرِ وَأَعْمَلُهُمْ بِالْبِرِّ وَأَرْفَقُهُمْ بِالْمُصَاحِبِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

You should keep ties with brethren of purity, for they are an embellishment in times of ease and a support in [times of] tribulation

عَلَيْكَ بِإِخْوَانِ الصَّفَاءِ فَإِنَّهُمْ زِينَةٌ فِي الرَّخَاءِ وَعَوْنٌ فِي الْبَلَاءِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One whose nature is gentle, loving him is unavoidable

مَنْ لَانَتْ عَرِيكَتُهُ وَجَبَتْ مَحَبَّتُهُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One who belies the evil assumption about his brother has a sound covenant [of brotherhood] and a relaxed heart

مَنْ كَذَّبَ سُوءَ الظَّنِّ بِأَخِيهِ كَانَ ذَا عَقْدٍ صَحِيحٍ وَقَلْبٍ مُسْتَرِيحٍ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Do not rely on your friend until you have tested him, and be extremely cautious of your enemy

مَنْ أَحْسَنَ مُصَاحَبَةَ الْإِخْوَانِ اسْتَدَامَ مِنْهُمُ الْوُصْلَةَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

One whose friendship is sincere, his audacity is tolerated

مَنْ خَلَصَتْ مَوَدَّتُهُ احْتُمِلَتْ دَالَتُهُ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

How few are the reliable, trustworthy people, and how many are the treacherous!

مَا أَقَلَّ الثِّقَةَ الْمُؤْتَمَنَ وَأَكْثَرَ الْخَوَّانَ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

The friendship of the people who care for the Hereafter lasts as long as its motive [of pleasing Allah] lasts

وُدُّ أَبْنَاءِ الْآخِرَةِ يَدُومُ لِدَوَامِ سَبَبِهِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

Do not seek brotherhood [and friendship] among the uncouth people, rather seek it among the trustworthy and loyal people

لَا تَطْلُبَنَّ الْإِخَاءَ عِنْدَ أَهْلِ الْجَفَاءِ وَاطْلُبْهُ عِنْدَ أَهْلِ الْحِفَاظِ وَالْوَفَاءِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech

There is no good in the brother who does not enjoin on you what he enjoins on himself

يُغْتَنَمُ مُؤَاخَاةُ الْأَخْيَارِ وَيُجْتَنَبُ مُصَاحَبَةُ الْأَشْرَارِ وَالْفُجَّارِ

Source : Ghurar Al-Hikam Wa Durar Al-Kalim, Exalted Aphorisms And Pearls Of Speech